Message to an Inconsiderate Reader

Recently, I have been getting some comments on some of my blog posts (FINALLY!); and one of these posts, Critique: “Gay Marriage NOT Gay Culture,” has been getting some additional attention—and not of the friendly kind.

There is a particular person (who I don’t know because he/she persists to be identified as “Anonymous”) who is being inconsiderate and overly inappropriate. He/she sent me a comment on that post—I regulate all comments that go onto this blog—which I did not publish for two reasons:

1) The comment used very graphic and inappropriate language for what should be put out on a public forum. If you want a comment published, please be decent in what you say. I will actually publish comments by people who do not agree with me; all that I ask is that you be civil and decent when you do. Just be considerate with what you want to say and how you say it. If you feel uncomfortable saying what you want to write in response to my posts in front of your grandmother than you should not be writing it out in the open for everyone to see.

2) The blogger/reader chose to write such a comment under the “Anonymous” identity. This represents everything that I hate about online forums. People think they can just say what they want and get away with it without any consequences. If you cannot be brave enough to leave your name with your comment, than I do not have respect for what you have to say; and when you write such an inconsiderate comment, I will not allow it to be published—no matter how valid your argument is.

The fact is I face enough challenges and objections from people I actually do know that I do need to deal with any more opposition from people I possibly do not know. And then this “Anonymous” person has the nerve to harass me about the fact that I have not responded to his/her comment (If you are reading this, I think that is very inconsiderate).

This blog is here for a reason. It is here to help people who are struggling with their own questions about themselves or other loved ones who might be LGBT. My posts are not intended to attack anyone’s convictions that are opposed to mine. I do not look for arguments with this blog (you would know that if you read my About this Blog page), instead I seek discourse.

Now, regardless of how this person reacted, out of respect—even though I am not certain right now if they actually deserve that respect—I do plan on addressing their opinion in an upcoming blog post. But it may be awhile since I tend to be writing several posts at the same time (and I have a couple already being worked on). I will get to it eventually; you will just have to be patient.

[Do not think that I am discouraging anyone from writing their thoughts and comments on what I write. I do want you to leave your comments, affirmations and objections. But I ask that you do so with respect for me and for everyone else who reads this blog.]