My Coming-Out Q&A (Part 2)

In a recent post, I imitated the senior project of the high school student who interviewed the life stories of several gay people. I was inspired by the documentary, and decided to do a similar thing myself.

To recap, I previously answered these questions about myself: How old were you when you first came out? Did you always accept yourself [as a gay man]? What was the reaction of those around you? Have you ever been personally victimized or abused for being gay? What is hetero-normative society? What advice would you give to anyone who was debating about whether or not to come out as gay?

This time, I will be focusing more on the questions regarding my own perception or subjective understanding of my homosexuality. This post will be about my relation to my homosexuality itself, rather than about my relationships with others. I hope it will be just as insightful for you as before.

So without further ado, here it goes:

A Routine Self-Evaluation That Does Not Happen Often Enough

I spent this holiday season staying at school instead of going home. So over winter break here at seminary, while nearly everyone else was gone, I spent a lot of time with just myself. And this gave me some considerable time to do some long-overdue self-reflection.

I had the opportunity to just sit myself down and say, “Self, what is going on with you these days?”—Although, for me personally it was more like: “Self, how is that career discernment thing going?” A part of me still has no clue exactly what I will be doing with my life when I am done with my time here. However, that has not stopped me from spending a good deal of time getting prepared for my Field Education next year (think of it as an internship I get credit for).

More recently, my bouts of self-reflection have come up once again during my courses for this semester. I am currently taking an Educational Psychology course and a Neuroscience course—that is right, you are not wrong…I am still attending seminary—so I have been inclined to do some of my own personal childhood development reflections from when I was a kid. Personally, I actually find all of this science/sociology stuff to be absolutely fascinating, and in many ways applicable to ministry.

Homosexuality in the Mennonite Church: The Pittsburgh Experiment

Every two years, Mennonite Church USA holds a biannual convention to bring together Mennonites from all over the country. It is an opportunity to reunite with old friends, to worship God, and to celebrate a religious heritage that goes that goes all the way back to the Reformation in Europe. 

This convention also gives Mennonite Church USA’s delegate body—composed of representatives from member conferences and affiliated organizations—a chance to decide the direction that the broader denomination will take. And where I was always more concerned with the other aspects of the convention, it is the workings of the delegate body that I now find interesting.

And it is specifically the issue of inclusion of homosexuality that I particularly direct most of my attention.

The Importance of a Supporting Community

Since coming home, I have been reminded of something important, something I already knew of, but had become so accustom to that I took it for granted: Community.

A novel idea, I know, coming from a Mennonite; but do not let my sarcasm fool you. Having a support network around you to help you is very important…especially when you are gay.