My Coming-Out Q&A (Part 2)

In a recent post, I imitated the senior project of the high school student who interviewed the life stories of several gay people. I was inspired by the documentary, and decided to do a similar thing myself.

To recap, I previously answered these questions about myself: How old were you when you first came out? Did you always accept yourself [as a gay man]? What was the reaction of those around you? Have you ever been personally victimized or abused for being gay? What is hetero-normative society? What advice would you give to anyone who was debating about whether or not to come out as gay?

This time, I will be focusing more on the questions regarding my own perception or subjective understanding of my homosexuality. This post will be about my relation to my homosexuality itself, rather than about my relationships with others. I hope it will be just as insightful for you as before.

So without further ado, here it goes:

My Coming-Out Q&A (Part 1)

I was recently inspired by a Youtube video I watched several months ago called "Overcoming Adversities as a Gay Teen: One Generation at a Time." The video was a documentary created for a senior project by a gay high school student. In it, he interviewed various local openly gay people of all ages about their sexuality and their coming-out experiences. (This is the video—it is 90 minutes long, so I don't blame anyone who doesn't want to sit through it. But for those who do, here you go.)

To recap, the student asks everyone a series of questions and then played their responses. It is the typical interview format, but I think what was interesting was being able to see the variety of responses (or lack there of) amongst the many interviewees.

I was inspired by this project, and I wanted to do something similar. I am a firm believer in sharing our stories, because no matter how boring or mundane our story may seem to us, it is unique and has the potential to influence someone else.

So without further ado, here is my version of such a Q&A:

Thoughts On The "Red Facebook Explosion"

An interesting phenomenon happened on Facebook recently that thoroughly caught my attention. Anyone who logged on to the social networking outlook on Tuesday, March 26th and Wednesday, March 27th would have seen it. Thousands of profile pictures changed to this red and pink equals sign, painting everyone’s Newsfeeds in a sea of red.

The image being used was a modification of the logo for the Human Rights Campaign (HRC is an advocacy group for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender individuals), typically a yellow equals sign with a navy background. This trend was inspired because on March 26th and 27th the U.S. Supreme Court heard cases regarding the constitutionality of Proposition 8—the California ban on same-gender marriage—and DOMA—officially “Defense of Marriage Act,” which prohibits the federal government from recognizing same-gender marriages as marriage, thereby prohibiting the federal government from granting them the 1,100 or so federal benefits for married couples regardless of which state they live in.

Now, I am well privy to the type of groundswell movements that often take place on social networks. Granted, most of the time it goes something like this: my Facebook Newsfeed is suddenly swarmed with “GO BIG RED!!” statuses, and I instantly know the Nebraska Cornhuskers are playing. But this was much bigger than that, because EVERYONE—coast to coast—would have seen it.

A Routine Self-Evaluation That Does Not Happen Often Enough

I spent this holiday season staying at school instead of going home. So over winter break here at seminary, while nearly everyone else was gone, I spent a lot of time with just myself. And this gave me some considerable time to do some long-overdue self-reflection.

I had the opportunity to just sit myself down and say, “Self, what is going on with you these days?”—Although, for me personally it was more like: “Self, how is that career discernment thing going?” A part of me still has no clue exactly what I will be doing with my life when I am done with my time here. However, that has not stopped me from spending a good deal of time getting prepared for my Field Education next year (think of it as an internship I get credit for).

More recently, my bouts of self-reflection have come up once again during my courses for this semester. I am currently taking an Educational Psychology course and a Neuroscience course—that is right, you are not wrong…I am still attending seminary—so I have been inclined to do some of my own personal childhood development reflections from when I was a kid. Personally, I actually find all of this science/sociology stuff to be absolutely fascinating, and in many ways applicable to ministry.

A Very Grateful Thanksgiving

With Thanksgiving break just around the corner, I finally get the opportunity to relax from all the usual stresses of being a seminary student and take some time—FINALLY—to write another blog post. And in the typical Thanksgiving fashion, I want to take the time to reflect on what I am thankful for.

The past three months (my-goodness, has it really been that long already?!) of my first semester at Princeton Theological Seminary has been a roller coaster of a trip. It hardly seems like that long ago I was packing my car as a new college graduate to drive off for the next chapter of my life in New Jersey! But yet, here I am.